Amongst men, talking about our feelings is still a relatively tricky topic. It’s not something we’re used to, and it’s not something we feel particularly comfortable or confident discussing. That said, we also know that our friends would do anything for us, always look out for us, and would always be on hand if we need them.
Except, so often they never know that we do need them.
Today, we live in a world with so much going on. In the news each day there are stories about war, the cost of living, an environmental crisis, banks collapsing, homelessness, we could go on. And of course it’s going to affect us. The stats even tell us that.
There are more people than ever before taking their own life. There are more of us seeking drug rehab as a result of turning to substances to cope with our problems. When so often the more constructive answer is to just reach out and talk to our friends and loved ones about it.
But how do we do it?
Choose the Right Time and Place
When it comes to opening up to friends about your emotions, timing is everything. Choose a time when you and your friend are both free from distractions and can give each other your full attention. It’s also important to choose a private and comfortable setting where you can speak openly and honestly without fear of interruption.
Be Honest and Authentic
Authenticity is key when it comes to opening up to your friends about your emotions. Be honest about how you’re feeling and why. Don’t be afraid to share your vulnerabilities or admit to struggling. Authenticity can help you build deeper connections with your friends and create a sense of trust and safety.
Avoid Judgement
When opening up to your friends about your emotions, it’s important to avoid judgement. Your friends may have different opinions or perspectives than you, but that doesn’t mean they don’t care. Respect their views and try to see things from their perspective. This can help you maintain a positive and supportive relationship with your friends.
Ask for Support
Opening up to friends about your emotions can be a vulnerable experience, but it’s also an opportunity to ask for support. Let your friends know how they can help you, whether that’s just listening or offering advice. Be specific about what you need and what would be most helpful.
Practice Active Listening
Opening up to your friends about your emotions is a two-way street. While it’s important to express how you’re feeling, it’s also important to listen to your friends when they share their own experiences. It will not only help them realise that you do care what they say and you do need to hear it, but it’ll also encourage them to reach out to you should they need help and want to talk too, opening up the friendship group as a safe space for all.